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Hey everyone, a bit of background, basically about 2 years ago my mum found out that her husband (4th husband by the way and my step-dad) had been cheating on her for about six months, now of course this broke her, and she only finally got divorced from him the other day.
Ever since then her life has just fell apart, she had a decent job as a receptionist at an opticians, the pay was good and she seemed to get on with the people that she worked with, she’s lost her job there now.
Over these two years she’s started drinking and i have occasionally found a few bottles of vodka that she’s hidden away somewhere, and even though i’ve explained to her why this drinking doesn’t help, i’ve again found more vodka.
She doesn’t sleep properly, if at all, she doesn’t eat properly, she’s quite ill sometimes, like really sick for a few days, it’s just me and her living in the house and i try to look after her the best i can, but i just think it’s been two years now, she still shouldn’t be like this, and i hate myself for thinking it, but sometimes i just think that she puts it on a bit for a bit of attention.
She constantly complains about how my brother doesn’t see her much and doesn’t bring her granddaughter around to see her, but he’s in the police force, and has a family to look after, so he’s pretty damn busy. Quite a few of my family live in Hull, where we live, her brother, cousins, etc. Sure they have there problems, but they hardly help out, sometimes she needs someone to talk to and sure i’ll talk to her about things, but she repeats herself so much that im not being mean, but i can only take so much, it gets to the point where i have to tell her to stop repeating herself.
I mean today she asked me to go out for a meal with her at the pub, and i’m not being mean and im not embarrased or anything, but i can’t be doing with it if i go for a meal with her and she starts going on about her ex-husbands, or my brother not seeing her much, or if she starts crying or something. Like i said she’s been like this for two years now and i’m not sure what to do to help her now, i dont no how to get her out of the state that she’s in.
Sure i’ve got her to see the doctor, and finally she got an appointment with a pshycharitist, but her next appointent isn’t till early september, and she’s only seen her once.
By the way my name’s Dave, i’m 18, i’m working at asda at the moment since i aint at college anymore, just working out what i want to do then i will move on from asda.
Anyway sorry for the long post everyone, any answers/help would be appreciated, thanks everyone and cya.
Dave.
Thanks for the answers, yer i could take her out, but i’ve been out with her for a meal before, and it just doesn’t help really, she needs to go out with a friend or someone her age and talk about things and have a good time.
Also, no i cant tell her to get a life and get a new hobby, you have to understand people like my brother are basically just pissed off with her now, and cant keep a cool head when she just repeats her self and goes on about the same stuff, like her past and starts crying. So i need to be there for her, i just need some other people to do the same thing i think and talk to her about things.
Well a while ago she was in hospital for a few days, one day i was up early because i had to be at work early for something.
Anyway she was up early becuase she was going to town or something, but she seemed fine and then she sat down on the sofa and just fell asleep basically, it turned out she had drank a load of vodka in the night, and i couldn’t get her to wake up so i had an ambulance called out.
When she was given the breath test thing at the hospital, to see how much alcohol she had drank, the nurse said to me that it’s the highest she’s ever seen it, so she must of drank a lot.
Once she was out of hospital i thought things might change a bit but at the moment they haven’t.
Thanks for the answers so quickly by the way everyone.
Yer well the thing is she buys the alcohol herself, she must buy it when im out or at work, and then she just hides it.
Hey, yer i know what you mean Ginger, but i think she’s already hit rockbottom, yer there are a few times when it seems like for a few days, or maybe even a week, she’s getting better, and in those few days she does seem like her former self, but then things just get worse again.
It’s like things are just repeating themselves.
Yer ok you have a point there, but still, she had drank a lot, i could tell that myself, anyway i’d just like to say again thanks for the answers, i appreciate it a lot.
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